Thursday, July 31, 2008

The Long Goodbye

And so we begin the process of saying goodbye . . . or so long. It's heartbreaking, if not precious, to watch. Kathryn seems to want to skip this whole step of being together before Tara leaves. "Why bother? We're both uncomfortable and if she's just going to leave anyway . . ."

And me stuck without my "How to Guide Your Child Through All Life's Painful Moments" handbook, "It's important to spend this time together; you'll regret it if you don't."

Kathryn is the master of long distance relationships. She sees her California cousins twice a year but knows more about what's going on in their lives than of some of her school friends. She regularly calls, emails, web-cams them. She's as close to them as I am to their mother, my sister. She hasn't yet seen this as a possibility her long distance relationship with Tara.
Tara, on the other hand, is a master at relocating. She's lived all over - from Racine, WI. to Budapest, Hungary. She knows what this is like. She knows how to leave and start over. But she told me yesterday that this one is the hardest. It's the shortest time they've been somewhere, the shortest time they've had to pack up and move (she starts school on August 15) and the closest friends she's made.
I know this will be hard. But their bond is very strong. The technology is in place to keep them connected.

That's what the handbook says anyway.